Do you ever wonder if your homeschooling days look like anyone else’s?

Homeschooling is very much like being a pioneer…”a person who is among the first to explore or settle a new country or area.”  Because each of our families are unique, it truly looks different for EVERY family.

The problem is that too many of us don’t realize this and because we are terrified of failing our children, we try to imitate the public school system that is, for the most part, failing our children.  Some of us try to imitate what another family is doing in hopes that it’s right for us, but the truth is that we have to have courage to blaze a trail and walk our homeschooling journey in a way that best fits OUR family.

We moved across the country almost 3 months ago.  While we’ve been busy renovating an old home that we are turning into a bed and breakfast,  our 12 year old turned an empty room upstairs into a workshop. He used what he had access to which was lots of cardboard, tape and glue.  He has literally spent countless hours up there creating.

I had gotten a glimpse of a few things that he had made, but decided to have him show me EVERYTHING and it was quite amazing.  The more I saw the more I realized how much he and I do NOT think alike.  I told him that and since I am supposed to homeschool him, I asked him how in the world I was going to go about that?  He said, “Just get me more cardboard!”

In our over 20 years of homeschooling I found this to be true over and over again.  When I let our kids’ natural love for learning lead the way, our kids surpassed me in so many areas very soon.  Did that mean that I couldn’t or shouldn’t homeschool them?  NO!  It meant that I had to be resourceful and show them how to be resourceful!  I was a facilitator of their education, not necessarily THE source for everything.

We want our kids to develop a love for learning that lasts a lifetime. We do that by encouraging OWNERSHIP of their education.  That will often mean that it doesn’t look like what we thought it would look like and THAT is the adventure!

Moms, we have the opportunity of a lifetime to encourage a love for learning through ownership and providing a healthy framework for our kids to work within (read: character).

I’m sharing a short, 5 minute video here of my tour of Silas’ creations.  You’ll notice that I ask him lots of questions. He struggles with putting words to his thoughts, so I tried to use this time where we were connecting, to encourage him to practice that.  THIS is homeschooling in real life.

For more encouragement in your homeschooling journey, go check out my simple, mercifully short book on homeschooling!  The Unhurried Homeschooler   (aff)